10 tips for relationship success, especially when at least one spouse is neurodivergent
Let’s face it, relationships are HARD! We enter them with our own unconscious ’templates’ from what we experienced and observed growing up in our families of origin. Those of us who have experienced complex trauma can have more difficulty being emotionally vulnerable. Us neurodiverse folks, referring to those of us who demonstrate signs of ADHD, Autism, and/or learning disabilities, can naturally struggle with communication and other executive function tasks that require navigating within a relationship.
❤️ Practice clear, direct communication - approach conversations with curiosity
❤️ Practice active listening skills - listen to hear, rather than just waiting to respond
❤️ Express your vulnerable emotions - let your partner in to your internal experience
❤️ When in doubt, ask for clarification - try not to assume or jump to conclusions
❤️ Honour each other’s differences - learn about each other’s unique brains
❤️ Have patience and empathy for each other - especially with miscommunications and forgetfulness
❤️ Learn about each other’s sensory profiles - sensory sensitivities, joys, its impacts on emotional and physical intimacy
❤️ Provide emotional support - especially when your partner demonstrates or expresses vulnerability
❤️ Support each other’s unique interests - delight in your partner’s favourite things
❤️ Engage in emotional repair post-rupture - genuinely apologize, demonstrate empathy, offer forgiveness
It can be helpful to have a relationship counsellor assist in navigating how to express emotions and communicate more effectively because breaking cycles is so hard to do on our own. Think you and your spouse(s) could use more support in any of these areas? Contact Down to Earth for a no-cost consultation now!
